“It’s funny how sometimes the people you’d take a bullet for are the ones behind the trigger.”

-Is attributed to Elizabeth “Grandma” Layton- from 3 Sister Writing platform.

Let this sink in for a moment. Because this is legit the honest thing that happens all the time. It has a way of slipping pass the ones that we love the most.

Everybody has that one person that they want to protect. That one person that you would do anything for. The best way to describe it, is the love that you have for that person.

It all goes downhill when you ask for help, and they won’t help you. It’s like you don’t even exist to them anymore. They funny thing is that when they ask for help again and you don’t provide it, you’re the one that is the bad guy.

When this happens do you question your existence? Or do you start to question your presence in any relationship? This isn’t healthy! This feeling will impact your whole self-esteem. Make you wonder about things that you shouldn’t have to worry about when it comes to friends or loved ones.

Yes, it does hurt when the ones you love hurt you, but it also tells you something else. See I firmly believe that everybody comes into our lives to either be a lesson or blessing. Sometimes it’s often both, depending on how you look at it.

True, at first, you’re going to feel upset, angry, but once you calm down and think it through, you will realize the true meaning of what their attentions are.

Be true to who you are, not as to what other people want you to be. Don’t be the target that everyone wants to hit. I guarantee that once you put that bullet proof vest on. People won’t target you so easily. You then will see who respects or values you the most.

The only thing to do is let the unrespectful go. Let them go and move on. If you pray, say a prayer for them and be on your way.

Take care my friends and stay humble and alert.

“Everyone has a chapter they don’t read out loud.”

-Mel Robbins

Some people may think that their life is an open book, that they have nothing to hide. Others may have a steal trap for a book and is always hiding something. Very few think that they don’t have a story to tell because of their background. However, you may look at it that EVERYONE has a story to tell. It may not be what you want to hear, then again it could be something that you need to hear. It just depends on how well you listen, and where your level of caring would fit in.

There will be chapters of your life where you will think that you have the worst life, more than anybody else in the whole world. Like your car broke down, house caught on fire, your dog died, etc. Just one bad thing leading to another in a consistent circle.

Then there are chapters that are the most joyous. You get engaged, you get married, get a new car, house, dog, baby etc. These you hope will continue but like life it changes.

Life is full changes, sort of like the seasons. You know summer, fall, winter, spring. Constantly changing and like books they constantly change with chapters. With each ending of a chapter, should remind you that nothing bad always remains. You may not like it right now, nor does anyone else, but don’t let it define you. Instead, with each chapter use it as a learning curve. If it’s bad, learn from it, if its good then rejoice within the good times. Just remember the season/ chapters, they don’t last forever. Just prepare for the next season/chapter that’s coming. Meaning your story isn’t over and something exciting is coming. It may not be instant, but something will happen that will definitely be worthwhile.

Not everyone likes to tell the whole world as what they are going through. Some like the attention while others do it for the therapy reasons like, privately, like me. So, depending on the person or situation you may have to take it slow, with the conversation. Listen to what they have to say. Allow them to get things off their chest.

If you ever come across bad times, ask yourself, what season/chapter am I in? Then you need to laugh or cry about it but, don’t’ be there for too long. Simply turn the page and move on.

The one thing I want you to know is to be proud of your story. Look at how far you’ve come and look as to what you’ve overcome from that time. Remember when you thought that you wouldn’t be able to get over that “bad time?” Well look at you now. What you did then will continue to make you strong for your next chapter.

Keep your head up and keep going. Stay positive and you will get what you deserve.

“If your absence doesn’t affect them, your presence never mattered.”

Credited by Dido Stargaze

Like many quotes each one will affect someone a different way. That’s what I love about quotes, it can go either way. This however hits home for me.

I always try and help my friends to the best of my ability. I will give them the very clothes off my back if they need it. I even allow my friends to live with me until they are able to get back on their feet.

The thing that hurts the most is when you do that for someone and then they go out to get their own place you no longer hear from them again.

It makes you feel like you were being used and now you’re not useful to them anymore. That you were only a steppingstone beneath their feet.

It goes to show how important your “friendship” was to them. Even though it stings to have this done to you, it gives you a lesson for the next time they ask for something.

This gets you to think as to what you should do. If that opportunity ever comes around again. Do you help them, then they leave you, until they need you again? or do you just say no, I can’t help you this time?

So now that I have learned my lesson. I used to give people so many chances. Hoping they would change. I also didn’t want to lose a friend either, but it didn’t dawn on me that I was being used at the time. I thought of it as them ‘being down on their luck.’

Now sure I’ll help you but if I don’t hear from you for months or years, then no. I am realizing that I am no one’s steppingstone and I will not be placed on the back burner until you’ll need me again.

So, from now on, I will not plead endlessly to get attention from them. If they don’t answer to my call or text within months, even though you can see that they have read it, then I’ll pay the same respect they have given me.

My promise to myself is that I will not dwell on someone who doesn’t want to be around me. So, if my absence doesn’t matter to them neither will their absence matter to me.

I will wish you well and good luck in life. Because you lost a good lifelong friend who would do anything for you.

Would that make me bitter or am I doing the right thing?

Let me know in the comments below of your thoughts.

“Do what scares you until it doesn’t.”

-@Sandstorm- found on Pinterest

It’s been said that short burst of scares can strengthen the immune system. In that particular moment our bodies become superhuman. We become more alert to our surroundings. An adrenaline rush, that floods oxygen to the muscles, that give you that strength from any particular stress.

But this quote doesn’t mean that!

From my opinion, this quote means be fearless to live your life. Some things will be easy but there will be some that will be hard. Then you will have things that will scare the living Hell out of you. Whatever you decide, allow yourself to be fully immersed into what you are going to do.

For instance, this Blog, scares the living crap out of me. I’m worried that I won’t be able to have the financial freedom out of this to support my daughter. I’m worried of the comments that I may see within these comments below. But I have to remember that I am doing this for me and my mental health, as well as for my daughter.

The way I see it is if I can do this for my daughter and she sees that I am okay, that I am trying, then she will know that we will be okay. That she will know that she will be okay as well. She will also learn to live her life without fear. To live life to the fullest but be smart about it.

So, if next time you are going to try something new, that benefits you and your life. Be sure to fall through with it. Do it until it becomes a natural thing for you.

You shouldn’t have to fear life and all of its wonders. Go out and explore! Find out what you want or find out what you can do. What you’re capable of.

I guarantee that you’ll won’t regret it.

Be safe and be well.

“A girl who is going to do big things- cannot let small things get to her.”

-Found quote on Tumbler

This is so true. If you want your goals or dreams to happen, you cannot allow other people’s criticisms lead you to your own undoing.

If you allow this to happen then you wouldn’t have the courage to continue. So, in order to do that you must stay, remain, brave and strong. Use those criticisms to your advantage, a lesson, if you may, to make it better, so you may reach your goal.

Don’t allow others unhappiness ruin yours. They just want someone to fail along with them. Heck, if you’re successful enough, your happiness could encourage them to accomplish their own life dreams and goals.

I know a lot of times, for me, I let my fear get the best of me. Lucky for me, I have family and friends who encourage me to keep going. Then there are others who are not so lucky and that is when you will have to learn to become really dangerous. To really dig within yourself to pull that belief out and hold it within your hands and claim it!

With fear, as simple as it sounds, it can put a stop in your step. You just have to keep telling yourself that you can do this, because you can. Just kick that thought to the side and continue walking on to your destination.

I know, sometimes, it’s you who is saying that you can’t but don’t believe it! You have to dive deeply within to believe in yourself because only you can make that next move in your journey. Only you can talk to yourself into actually doing it.

Cause in the end, if everyone has left and there is only you. Best believe, there will be a time where you will feel that enough is enough and you will start taking charge of what you want done in your life.

So, do me a favor, believe in yourself and don’t allow others to bring you down. You are remarkable, and you are worthy to have as much happiness as the next person.

As always be well and be kind with yourself.

“Nothing is impossible. The word itself says ‘I’m Possible!” – Audrey Hepburn

Audrey Hepburn was a vibrant British actress and a world known humanitarian. You have probably seen her in some of her movies like:

• Breakfast at Tiffany’s
• Roman Holiday
• Sabrina
• My Fair Lady

Just to name a few, she was ranked third by the American film institute as the greatest female screen legend from the classical Hollywood Cinema and was enlisted into the international, as best dressed, hall of fame.

Audrey was born May 4th, 1929, in a town called Ixelles, Belgium. She sadly died January 20,1993 and was buried in Tolochenaz, Switzerland.

Her quotes meaning is to give the reader or listener courage to follow their dreams. Her quote means that if we give up too easily or too quickly. Which is true in some cases but if you can imagine anything that you want, you can make it happen. Now go out and do it! Make it happen!

We often make ourselves our own worst enemies. The lack of self-confidence doesn’t help the matter either. This sort of belief makes us think negatively about wanting to start something new. Something that we want to do or try.

This quote reminds me that the challenges I face are helping me to build who I am and what I want. Fear seems to get the best of us. letting that fear decide for us comes naturally because we are ‘comfortable’ with it but fighting against that fear and controlling your own way, takes courage. Now rather you succeed or fail, depending on how you look at things, you will always walk away with something of use or value. Something that you may use on your next adventure. So, if you’re scared of doing what you want, take the chance and see what you can make from it.

Nothing is impossible, because you are possible to make the impossible, possible. Never give up on your dreams, more importantly never give up on yourself.

What are some fears that you had but you found the courage to overcome it to follow your dreams? or maybe if you still have fears maybe we can help you to overcome it to achieve what you always wanted?

Le me know down below in the comments, can’t wait to hear from you guys.

“Every time you judge someone,

you reveal a part of yourself that needs healing.”

– Found on Pinterest, unknown.

I wonder about this. Growing up i was called every name in the book. Ugly, stupid, dirty Q-tip, pizza face, porky, you name it, I’ve heard it. The funny thing is the people who called me these names also had the same normal abnormal hormonal changes that I did.

Throughout high school, I was friends with everyone. Only a select few I could have done without knowing them but hey, it was High school. What could have I known or done?

Think about it, did you ever have someone in high school who called you, let’s say “Pizza face” and that person who is calling you ‘pizza face,’ also has a pizza fac! So, it seems that they want the attention away from them but at the same time they want the attention to let other people know how superior they think they are.

Mind blowing, isn’t it?

I guess if you are a high schooler, the thing you would probably do was go somewhere else and cry or wait till you got home so no one would see you.

Lucky for me I had a very strong-willed mother who knew how to handle such people. She then taught me what to do with people like that.

If I was confronted like that, by someone, I would simply tilt my head to the side and give them a questionable look and simply ask them. “Are you okay?” Make sure you have a serious look to your face for when you confront them. It makes them think about it for a moment.

Instead of you looking away, especially when people are around, give them what they want. Attention. Redirect their attention to you to them. If they counteract with another insult, simply ask them another question. “Who made you be like this?”

Now you can do this over and over again. Keep asking the concerning questions or you could just simply ask the first question, then be on your marry way.

So, to some there is a fine line between judgmental and criticism. How you interpret it, is on you. So why do we judge? Some say that it helps us realize what we want for our own goals. Others may want to figure out where they fit in. Then there are opinions that we form in others of what we want or don’t want.

So, the next time when someone judges you for being, well you. Just think of this way. Think of them as them trying to find their way. Maybe they want to be you but don’t know it just yet. Meaning that you have a quality that they want. They just simply don’t know how to ask you in a proper way.

So, when you come face to face with someone, pay them no mind. Words are just words. Yes, they may sting but it’s not who or what they call you. It’s how the reaction that you are going to give them, will determine what is you and who they are.

Don’t let the judgement of others change who you are. Don’t change unless it’s for the greater good for you!

Let me know what you do. I love to hear how you handle your bully’s. Who knows maybe someone could use your advice for when they are in a situation.

Till then be safe and be kind.

On this post for today I want to talk about quotes that I love and how I intricate them into my life. It’s funny but in reality, when something happens in my life, I feel that a quote is right there to make me feel better or it hits just right, making it into a lesson.

Quote for today:

“I post what I agree with, not what I’m going through. People tend to confuse the two.” – —Suraj Pathak

Is it just me or does anyone else get disrespectful comment on an automated post that is posted on your page? Or something you yourself has vented out into the web just so you can feel better cause you have no one to really talk to?

So, I am in a lot of groups that contains quotes, jokes, dark humor, writing, etc. And there will be quotes or sayings on there that I agree with that just hits home for me. While others, that I don’t agree with, I just scroll on by.

Sure, I may seem passive on some things, but it doesn’t always mean that I am that kind of a person. I am very open minded and if I don’t understand something, I ask….

I’ve should have known with people being so insecure and so easily offended on social media, that ALL the Karens and Kevins come out and have to put their two cents in, when in reality they themselves do not know the full story. But yet they want to say something to make it go their way. That’s fine, you are intitled to your own opinion but that does not mean that you need to go around and shove it down other people’s throats. That is not how the world works.

The way I see it, it is my social media. I will put on there any belief that I believe in or any content that I want, to my liking. Now I am sorry but not sorry that you feel offended but that is your problem and not mine. If you want to be a walking stroke waiting to happen, then be my guest. But I have no time or energy to even dwell on something another person has an opinion on that is differ from my own. Every problem can be solved by something.

Another way that I see it is, if it offends you so much then it must be true, or it really struck a soft spot that you want to cover up and hide. So, if the shoe fits, you might as well wear it to the ball Cinderella! If you don’t like it, change it, but do it for yourself, not what other people try and tell you what to do.

Now there are times where I post what I feel, giving me my right to just vent. Everybody needs something to help with that. Not to start a fight or a debate but just to vent and possibly get some feedback on what I am venting about. Now you may not agree with me and my thought process but that is okay. That is your choice, however I can choose if I want to follow that process or continue down my own road. So, there would be no need to shove disrespect down my throat when you do not or will not, know the whole story.

What I don’t understand is, instead of coming at a person and telling them that they are wrong, why don’t you just ask the person a few basic, humanly, questions. What makes them believe what they believe? Who knows it might change your mind. It could even be taken as a learning experience, rather than an insult.

So, the next time you read a post, don’t always assume that it’s about you. If you think it’s about you, then most likely it is. If it bothers you that much, figure it out, ask questions to see if it is true or not. Or you could just simply leave it alone. Let people post whatever they want. Not everyone will be on your side, which is fine, but you will know what is true and what’s not.

Don’t be a follower, lead your own path to your own happiness. No one holds that key but you.

How does this quote make you feel? Let me know down below of what you think?

Until next time!