“Every time you judge someone,

you reveal a part of yourself that needs healing.”

– Found on Pinterest, unknown.

I wonder about this. Growing up i was called every name in the book. Ugly, stupid, dirty Q-tip, pizza face, porky, you name it, I’ve heard it. The funny thing is the people who called me these names also had the same normal abnormal hormonal changes that I did.

Throughout high school, I was friends with everyone. Only a select few I could have done without knowing them but hey, it was High school. What could have I known or done?

Think about it, did you ever have someone in high school who called you, let’s say “Pizza face” and that person who is calling you ‘pizza face,’ also has a pizza fac! So, it seems that they want the attention away from them but at the same time they want the attention to let other people know how superior they think they are.

Mind blowing, isn’t it?

I guess if you are a high schooler, the thing you would probably do was go somewhere else and cry or wait till you got home so no one would see you.

Lucky for me I had a very strong-willed mother who knew how to handle such people. She then taught me what to do with people like that.

If I was confronted like that, by someone, I would simply tilt my head to the side and give them a questionable look and simply ask them. “Are you okay?” Make sure you have a serious look to your face for when you confront them. It makes them think about it for a moment.

Instead of you looking away, especially when people are around, give them what they want. Attention. Redirect their attention to you to them. If they counteract with another insult, simply ask them another question. “Who made you be like this?”

Now you can do this over and over again. Keep asking the concerning questions or you could just simply ask the first question, then be on your marry way.

So, to some there is a fine line between judgmental and criticism. How you interpret it, is on you. So why do we judge? Some say that it helps us realize what we want for our own goals. Others may want to figure out where they fit in. Then there are opinions that we form in others of what we want or don’t want.

So, the next time when someone judges you for being, well you. Just think of this way. Think of them as them trying to find their way. Maybe they want to be you but don’t know it just yet. Meaning that you have a quality that they want. They just simply don’t know how to ask you in a proper way.

So, when you come face to face with someone, pay them no mind. Words are just words. Yes, they may sting but it’s not who or what they call you. It’s how the reaction that you are going to give them, will determine what is you and who they are.

Don’t let the judgement of others change who you are. Don’t change unless it’s for the greater good for you!

Let me know what you do. I love to hear how you handle your bully’s. Who knows maybe someone could use your advice for when they are in a situation.

Till then be safe and be kind.