I was just asked recently as to why I am single.

To tell you the truth, I really don’t think about it too much. Normally when the subject comes up I either ignore it or I change the subject. It may take a few tries but its easily put behind me. Occasionally the subject lingers for more than just a few subjects. Frankly it’s quite an annoying subject, that keeps coming up.

I am single by choice. I find it easier that way. Some would say that I am searching for something or maybe Iam trying to work on me or focus on my individual goals.

Truth, it’s because I like my freedom, my independence. True, I am searching for something, but I don’t’ know what just yet but I’ll be patient until I do.

Now do I get lonely, of course I do but it fades, and I am back to normal. I don’t dwell too much on it. I even have embraced the nickname ‘Lonewolf’. I love wolves anyway, so I am ok with the nickname as well.

I often get the questions, ‘well don’t you want to get married? Don’t you want any more children?” ‘Isn’t it selfish of you to not have a ‘father figure’ or a ‘second mother figure’ within your daughter’s life?” Oh yes, I have been asked that last question many times. I don’t take it personally, some people don’t know my thoughts or my situation. I even been told that I can’t commit to anybody or that I can’t get along with anyone. Well, that’s not entirely true. But allow me to laugh about it for a moment.

Let me explain, hopefully it will clear up a few of those questions. I’m not gay (which there is nothing wrong with that, I have many adorable gay friends). I did have a boyfriend for eight in half years. We had a beautiful baby girl together. Unfortunately, we had different views on parenting, which lead to us splitting up, for the most part.

Did I want to get married? Well, I had my moments but as I get older, marriage, to me, is just a piece of paper and few rings and a few promises that can be easily broken. As for more children, I do but I am not financially stable for another one. So, I don’t think about it as much. So, I pay attention to the baby that I do have and, in her needs, and so far, it’s been good.

The ‘father figure,’ well as a single mother, I have to play both roles. My daughter’s father is in her life but it’s a long story to tell in this blog. I do know that she knows that if she needs me, she’ll know that I’ll always be there. Besides I rather my daughter see me happy than miserable. I don’t want her growing up thinking that she has to settle for less in a relationship. Especially if she is unhappy and that she doesn’t have a choice, when she does.

I have even been told that I am prude. I’m not, I just don’t have the time to go out or start over with someone new. I’ve even been told that Iam scared. Nope, wrong again, I have nothing to be scared of.

I can tell you one thing that does bother me. I am tired of people telling me that I need a man. Well, I’ll pull a page out of that movie, Eat Pray Love with Julia Roberts and Javier Bardem. “You don’t need a man, you need a champion.” So, I’ll be patient, and I’ll wait for that “champion” I do know that I will be stubborn for when someone comes because I’ll know as to what I want and what I will not tolerate.

So, in all reality I don’t mind being single and I know that there is nothing wrong with that. I like working on me and my baby girl. I like my freedom. I like me. I am happy. I don’t have low insecurities or low self-esteem. Not that I know of. I know that I am just me and I know my worth and only the best deserves my worth.

So, tell me, if you are single, do you like being single? If so, tell me why, if not do the same. Either way I’d love to hear your brave stories.